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A Lonely Place

Putting children in a corner to face the wall as punishment is a debate that has confused loving parents for many years. There are benefits to isolation of a child. It calms them down, humbles them, and gives them time to think about what they done. I believe sometimes God puts us in sort of a time out. However, for us as adults it is called a lonely place.

The lonely place, we often feel, sucks, but it is not a bad thing at all. We must learn to embrace the lonely place. As I reflect over my life, every time I was in a lonely place, God was up to something. He would either be protecting me from something or showing me who I am in Him.
I, too have made the mistake of trying to get out of that lonely place before it was time. I did it with men, food, drinking, partying, fake friends and a suicide attempt. I didn't like the lonely feeling. It's not a fun place to be in, especially when looking around and everyone else is having the time of their lives. I regret aborting those lonely places with those temperary things that only led to more grief. This is why I am writing this so that you will not make the same mistake as me. Wait on God.
The lonely places I made it through produced great things in my life. I had visions of writing, my family, my husband. God showed me His promises and who I am in Him. He showed me love. He gave me an identity.
God gave us examples of this in His word. The most important example is Jesus. Yes, Jesus, had to go through isolation before He became the King of Kings. Moses, before he rescued his people from Pharoh, he was alone when God gave him that instruction. He had to leave his familiar place to receive the vision from God.
Yes, it is hard being lonely, but remember it is for a reason. It will be worth it if you stick it out till the end of this process. I pray God gives strength to those who are in a lonely place. Stay focused on the work He is doing inside of you and not on what others are doing outside of you.

Winning While Losing

My energetic, seven year old son plays baseball and this is only his second season of playing. He is naturally talented at playing this sport so he got the the responsible position of catcher. At first he struggled with catching the ball consistently. My husband, being the awesome dad he is, started practicing with him. My son improved tremendously. 
The next game we were losing pretty bad as far as the score goes but in spirit we were winning. Almost every member of my sons team was having the game of their life including my son. They batting, running the bases and catching great. My son caught a pop up ball that didn't count but he was celebrating anyhow. We, the parents, were still celebrating the kids. 
At the end of the game I realized what God was showing me. He showing me that even though circumstances will sometimes make it seem like we're losing, we are really winning. The Bible says “The righteous see it and rejoice, And all iniquity stops its mouth. Whoever is wise will observe these things, And they will understand the lovingkindness of the LORD.” Psalms 107:42-43 NKJV
The, righteous aka the believers aka us, see God's goodness and rejoice. When we rejoice iniquity stops harassing. Rejoice for all God has done and be so focused on the good that the problems will seem to go away. For example, a person's car can break down and they don't know how they are going to get to work. They tell a friend about their situation and the friend offers them rides or knows someone who has a car they can borrow. The person should rejoice, they don't have car but they still have a way. Just as in my son's game, they were losing but still winning. 
Take a moment to rejoice in the areas you are winning in. Focus on those instead of the areas you are losing in and your problems will not harass you. You will be at peace and before you know it the problem will be resolved. 

How To Have A Balanced Life As A Single Mother

Everyone on earth knows how tough it is to be a single mom. The women have to be the head of the house, the home, provide and be there for the children in every way. The single mothers barely have time to care for themselves, or at least the good ones do.
As a single mother it is so easy to get focused on the wrong things, I know because I was not only raised by a single mother but I was also a single mother. A women who works 40 hours a week or more, fights traffic morning and night, rushes home to pick the kids up from childcare, cooks dinner, makes sure the kids do the homework and have everything they need. Let's include the kids who play organized sports, there goes any free time the single mother has. Oh my goodness, it can be over whelming, lonely and down right depressing because the single mother just needs a break.
Does the single mother deservice a break? Does she deserve to think of herself?  Yes, of course she does. Everyone needs a break, an out, something to release from the hustle and bustle of life. However the down fall is not keeping the right priorities. The down fall is when the single mother lets lonliness and the "me" factor settle in their hearts. This is dangerous because it effects the children and soon they start raising themselves.
The single mother has to balance taking care of herself and children. If she neglects one over the other then life can be difficult. An example is a single mother who focuses on finding a man to help her taking care of her children instead of her taking care of them herself and letting the man find her. The result could be getting stuck in a bad relationship out of desperation while the kids behave out of control.
The only way for single mothers to keep a balance is stay in God's presence and listen. Pray without stopping then wait for an answer from God. If He doesn't respond keep praying. Throw on your favorite gospel song. Don't be ashamed to talk to God about anything. When I was single I used to pray all the time about being lonely and dating. He already knows our hearts so why not talk to Him about it? As a result, He directed my paths and now I'm married to my husband for 11 years. He will do the same for you if you are obedient to Him.