As a single mother it is so easy to get focused on the wrong things, I know because I was not only raised by a single mother but I was also a single mother. A women who works 40 hours a week or more, fights traffic morning and night, rushes home to pick the kids up from childcare, cooks dinner, makes sure the kids do the homework and have everything they need. Let's include the kids who play organized sports, there goes any free time the single mother has. Oh my goodness, it can be over whelming, lonely and down right depressing because the single mother just needs a break.
Does the single mother deservice a break? Does she deserve to think of herself? Yes, of course she does. Everyone needs a break, an out, something to release from the hustle and bustle of life. However the down fall is not keeping the right priorities. The down fall is when the single mother lets lonliness and the "me" factor settle in their hearts. This is dangerous because it effects the children and soon they start raising themselves.
The single mother has to balance taking care of herself and children. If she neglects one over the other then life can be difficult. An example is a single mother who focuses on finding a man to help her taking care of her children instead of her taking care of them herself and letting the man find her. The result could be getting stuck in a bad relationship out of desperation while the kids behave out of control.
The only way for single mothers to keep a balance is stay in God's presence and listen. Pray without stopping then wait for an answer from God. If He doesn't respond keep praying. Throw on your favorite gospel song. Don't be ashamed to talk to God about anything. When I was single I used to pray all the time about being lonely and dating. He already knows our hearts so why not talk to Him about it? As a result, He directed my paths and now I'm married to my husband for 11 years. He will do the same for you if you are obedient to Him.