If Only...

Stop saying "If only" and start doing! 

It is great to make goals and have visions for our life. As a matter of fact it is healthy to have goals and visions so life does not just pass us by. Goals and visions give us a since of purpose. However, it is not good to continue to put off these goals and visions.

So many of us sit around and think "if only" then I could do what I need to do. For example, some people say if only I had a million dollars my life would be so much better or if only I was married. If only I had went to college or if only my kids would act right. If only I could lose 10 pounds. If only, if only, if only, if only....

Do not wait for "if only" to come. Enjoy where you are today and if you do have an "if only" do something about it. I am not saying go out and marry the first person you see if getting married is your "if only" but what I am saying is start taking steps to prepare yourself for marriage. Read books about marriage, get to know married couples to get tips from them and so on. The same thing applies for people who want to lose weight or go back to school, start moving toward those goals today.

Even for someone who wants to be a millionaire. Start making goals, plans and visions then put them to action. Start reading books about money, investing or starting your own business depending on your goal. Set a goal, research, start taking steps to achieve that goal, then endure. Endure the beginning stages, test and trials, do not shrink back. Stay consistent and before you know it that "if only" will become a reality. Stop saying "if only" and start taking action.

Another key thing to achieving your "if only" is do not let anyone talk you out of it. No matter what is going on around you. If family members come to you discouraging your "if only" saying it is not a vision or goal, just turn your head then keep going. If people tell you that is not possible say yes it is and keep going. Some people may stop talking to you because you stand up for your "if only" goals but keep going. Adopt the Energizer Bunny mentality and just keep going, going, going, going...then BAM. Your "if only" finally is in reality. You lost that 10 pounds, you started that business, you graduated from school with honors, and so on.

Don't let anyone stand in your way of the "if only" goal, including yourself. Stop saying "if only" and start taking action.

Lessons From Our Kids

I have talked about this before in blogs about when observing my kids I learn about myself. Today I learned another lesson, from my son. He is two in a half, full of joy and energy. He is also very curious and adventurous. He can also be very destructive. He loves trains and has a book about them that he loves so much. Today he was looking at the pictures but I guess he wanted to see what would happen if he tore the page. I saw that he was getting ready to start tearing it and of course I tried to stop him. My trying to stop him did not do its job. His curiosity out weighed my warning.
After the page was torn into two, he realized what he had done. His facial expression was so heartbreaking, he looked like he had lost his best friend. He cried and got mad at me! I told him I tried to tell you not to do it but you did it anyway. He wanted me to fix it but I could not, why, because I have no clear tape. So now he is going to have to wait until I get some more tape.

How many of us have done that?
We made a wrong choice out of disobedience and when we saw the damage we had done blamed it on something else. I have done that many times. Instead of blaming someone else it is better to take a moment and evaluate yourself. Once I realized it was me I was able to repent and wait patiently for the problem to be fixed. I put the problem in God's hands. He is such a loving God, He forgave me so I faithfully trusted and waited on Him then He fixed it. He will also do the same for you.
That was a great observation I learned from watching my child. Take the time to observe your children today to see what lesson God shows you.

Successful Women Motivate Successful Women

Today I was out and about running errands when I ran into a very pretty woman. Her make-up, hair and clothes were beautiful. Before when I would see a woman who seemed like she had it all together I would covet then start to feel bad about myself. Now I see myself different. I compliment and sometimes ask for advice like where did they get a nice jacket from. Anyway, back to the woman I saw, I complimented her make-up because I promise it looked like she had it done by a professional. She was so excited and surprised. You would have thought I had given her a million dollars. That compliment made her day, especially to hear it from another beautiful woman, myself.

I told that story to say we as women have got to start lifting each other up. There is so much hate, covetousness, and jealousy going on between women these days. It has got to stop! We are all different and we each have something the other may need. It is time to lift each other up and help.

Now I am not saying we all have to be best friends with everybody but do not feel bad about yourself when you see someone with better stuff. We don't know what they went through to get the nice stuff. Plus, they still might be going through something even with the nice stuff. When I say stuff I mean anything from man to nice jewelry.

What if I had hated on that lady and not opened my mouth? Her spirits would not have been lifted and her day would probably have gotten worse. I helped boost someones confidence instead of tear it down by hating on her. I also boosted my confidence by opening my mouth to say something and it felt good to help someone else feel better.

Remember that lifting each other up and treating each other kindly is a good way to receive the same thing. We should treat each other the way we want to be treated.

3 Ways to Beat Stress And Fatigue

Are you tired of being tired? If so, keep reading for tips to help.

A lot of people call this time of year the season to be stressed instead of the season to be jolly. I am here to say that it can be the season to be jolly for everyone. Stress and fatigue can be controlled by making three lifestyle changes.

1. Exercise

Get moving! Laying around hoping and praying that you wake up with a six pack is not the way to get the perfect body. Trust me, I tried. The best way to get in shape and get the blood flowing is to exercise, yes even in the winter time. The chemicals released during exercise give energy and releave stress. There are a couple of ways to do it by a gym membership or at home. Choose the way that best fits your life as long as you do it.

2. Eat Healthy

This time of year many of us are eating a lot of comfort food like fruit cake. That is fine but just remember to eat moderately if you are going to partake in all the sweets. Too much bad carbohydrates will weigh you down and make you feel sleepy. Eating the good carbohydrates like fruits, whole grain wheat and lots of protein will give natural energy to make you feel like you will never have to sleep again, maybe.

3. Last but definately not least, PRAY! 

Praying and having a relationship with God is the key to a peace of mind. Isaiah 26:3, amplified version "You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You."  When we focus on God, we will be at peace in every area of our lives.